Contrary to popular belief, good parents never let go of their children. Many say that when children reach the age of consent (18 or 16 years), whichever you choose to identify with, they are adults and the parents no longer have full responsibility for them.

How can you not be responsible when the child is not capable of earning to provide shelter, food and clothing for himself and possibly, others who may happen into his life? These days, room is always there for this possibility.

Age of frustration

As sensible human beings, some people need to be more realistic. At the age of consent, some children would have just commenced tertiary education, while others would just have 'landed' their first work experience.

If this same child is allowed to save what is earned, in another year or two, the child would be better able to help further his/her education. If the child is pressured into taking care of him/herself or perhaps, younger siblings, this stance would only hinder further progress for such a child. This is the stage at which frustration normally sets in.

The 'golden rule'

On the other hand, the other child whose parents are financing his/her higher education would be able to excel, if he/she applies discipline and purpose to his/her life. It is against this background that I beg to suggest that good or caring parents are never relieved of their parental obligations. It is also the reason that I would beg that no matter what your circumstances are, you take responsibility for your child who will grow observing and feeling your care and will learn to appreciate instead of being defiant, disrespectful and rebellious.

This is not the 'golden rule', but it may help to break the cycle of defiance, disrespect and rebelliousness among youths. Helpless, hungry children will always involve themselves in wrong activities.

I am, etc.,

Rose Dewar,

rldewar@hotmail.com

CHRISTIANA PO