Doctor's advice - Am I losing my virility, Doc?
Published: Saturday | December 19, 2009
I am sure that when I was younger, I could perform again and again. Indeed, I can clearly remember that I had a girlfriend to whom I would make love in the early part of the evening. Then we would go out to have a quick bite, after which we would come home and I would make love to her again. This was quite good, because I could last longer the second time.
During my 20s, I guess I must have lost that ability. Now, at 33, I can generally only have sex with my wife once in the evening. There are rare occasions when I am feeling virile and can have sex more than once, such as when we were holidaying on the north coast.
I think that on that evening, I had sex three times for the night, although my wife said it was only twice. My concern has been roused because of the fact that I have recently been trying to 'boost my performance' by reading some 'blue' stories before making love to my wife. In a lot of these tales, the guy seems to be able to do it again and again.
I realise there may be some exaggeration on the part of the authors, but they do seem to take it for granted that when the hero has had sex with the girl, he only has to wait for around 10 minutes, and then he will be able to do it again. I also saw a blue movie in which that happened, and the main actor climaxed twice in about 10 minutes - although I suppose that could have been a trick in the editing.
A. Of course, it was a trick in the editing! Porn movie producers could make it appear that an actor could climax 20 times for the night. In the real world, that just doesn't happen.
I think it's time that you looked at the medical facts about repeat orgasms. A lot of WOMEN can climax again and again. But, believe me, very few men can.
Let me tell you what researchers have found out about this subject. They report that:
In every age group, there are some exceptionally virile guys who can, if there is enough erotic stimulus, discharge several times in a night. However, such abilities are rare.
Yet myths persist about how one should be able to orgasm five times for the night. Among my male patients, the only guys who can make love five times in an evening are those who do not climax. Some of history's reputed great lovers were like that - they would make love to a girl without actually discharging, and then move on to another one. If you behave like that, it is quite easy to have sexual intercourse many times in an evening.
I can only think of two possible exceptions to the above rules:
(i) There have been reports that with the aid of the drug Viagra, or its near-relative Cialis, some men can manage a second orgasm in an evening.
(ii) I have also been informed that certain gigolos (that is, male professional prostitutes who hire themselves to rich women) have found a way of climaxing more than once, but I am not sure how reliable this information is.
Returning to you, it is obvious that at age 33, you are doing fine. If you look at the figures above, you can see that only four per cent of guys of your age are twice-a-night men. Relax. You are not losing your nature.
A. No, you have got this the wrong way round. Homosexual men do not generally have any interest in looking at lesbians having sex. Rather, it is straight males who so often like to look at pretty girls having sex together.
The reason for this is not clear. It may be something to do with the fact that heterosexual guys are turned on by two women having sex. You need to talk this over with your husband.
A. There must be some important reason why they are suddenly troublesome. Rather than just buying pills, you need to see a doc right away for a proper check-up.
A. This is cystitis, which is common in young women who are just launching out into sexual experience. Ask a pharmacist for some cystitis medicine. But if that does not work, your girlfriend must see a doc, taking a urine specimen along with her. Most important, be very gentle with her in bed, and keep your hands away from her anus, because that is an area where cystitis germs lurk.
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