When dating, the first, second and third impressions are lasting. The first date may get you a second one, etc. But it can be a royal waste of your time if you don't recognise some of the cardinal sins. These apply to men and women. Here are the dos and don'ts of dating.

1. Do be a good listener. This might be hard for men. We are not talking about feigning interest. You probably just met her so there is a lot you can find out by what she says. Take mental notes.

2. Don't talk about sex, especially on the first date. Talk about the traffic instead. Choose light topics that will make both of you relax; you may find out that you have a lot in common.

3. Do compliment. Women love compliments so this is encouraged but don't go overboard. Women, it wouldn't hurt to say, 'Nice shirt'.

4. Don't talk on the phone. Put the cellphone on vibrate and give your date your undivided attention.

5. Do shut up once in a while to let your date get a word in.

6. Don't talk about your past relationships, especially if this is the first date. If a question is asked, answer but be as brief as possible. No need to elaborate - yet.

7. Do be a gentleman. Most men seem to forget that they should open the door and pull out their date's chair. Chivalry is not dead!

8. Don't drink too much. Nothing is more unattractive and you could miss out on having a really good time with a very nice person. You need all your wits about you for this.

9. Do laugh at her jokes. Hopefully, they will be good, but if not, a smile should suffice.

10. Don't ask for a kiss. This is too forward and you may come off as being too aggressive and it suggests that you're only interested in being physical. That can wait, her lips aren't going anywhere.