Anthony Meerak, Relationship Writer
After every break-up, there is always the issue of mutual friends choosing sides. Friends tend to cling to whomever they know longer and have a stronger bond with, or sometimes everybody will just choose to distance themselves.
It's messed up when you are looking for a mutual friend to talk to, but they choose instead to distance themselves. Here are some reasons why they may choose to take that route.
❣ Contagion - believe it or not, break-ups can be contagious. Yup! You might begin to socialise with a relationship has-been who only chats you up on all the negatives of hooking up. Some persons may blatantly discourage you from continuing your relationship with your spouse, just because theirs went wrong. It's sad, but misery loves company. Watch out for the party poopers.
Choose sides
❣ Choosing sides - whenever two lovers decide to part ways, they usually want their friends to choose sides, saying things like, "How can you keep in contact with Jason when you know that he broke my heart?" It can often get confusing because you might have a problem with your friend's ex. To avoid the tug-o'-war, many of us stay far away.
❣ No more fun - when persons split up, they're usually bitter, hurt or upset. Going to the club with someone who's in that state of mind will most likely destroy the enjoyment factor. Think about it, you and your girlfriend decide to go out and the bruised acquaintance tags along. How do you think they're going to feel when you are seen groping, laughing and kissing in the club? It's punishment for them. If you're considerate folks, their unhappiness will most surely dull the fun factor.
❣ Members only - let's face it, many of us who are in relationships attract the company of other couples. We can double-date, enjoy two-for-one specials at the movies and plan our vacations together. In situations like these, no one wants a third wheel. That's probably why there is no three-for-one special anywhere - except at wholesales and supermarkets.
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