Q. Doc, could you give me some advice about my love-life? I am a businesswoman in my late 30s, and I have noticed that in the last few months I seem to want sex more and more.This is quite surprising to me, doctor, because as a young woman I was quite shy and timid, and was not all that interested in sexual intercourse. Indeed, I did not lose my virginity till I was nearly 24.
I should explain that I am married, but the marriage is not in a great state now, and I think we both know that it will come to an end soon. My husband works on the other side of the island, and I am aware that he has girl-friends there. He only stays with me at the weekends, and we do have quite a raunchy time while he is here. We still get on quite well, though we argue a lot, and we no longer want to live together full-time.
You are probably wondering if I see other men, and the honest truth, doctor, is that I do. I am in the travel business, so naturally I meet quite a lot of interesting, handsome, well-off guys. At the moment, there is one particular man from St. Catherine whom I see frequently. I have grown real close to him, recently, and we laugh a lot together. Frankly, he is much better in bed than my husband, and he certainly knows how to make me discharge - again and again.
In fact, what I have noticed is that these days I seem to orgasm much more often than I used to. Indeed, I am not sure that I ever orgasmed at all until I reached the age of around 25. But these days, my body seems to want to do it many times in one session. That is what is concerning me a little, doctor. There have been times, recently, when I have actually climaxed around a dozen times in a single night. The other evening, my boyfriend took me to bed and made me climax around six times. And, after he had gone home, I was still feeling so sexy that I 'did it myself' about another six times - mostly thinking about this guy.
I have seen where you mentioned 'multiple orgasms' in your column recently. You said that these are normal for a lot of women of my age. But I am wondering why I seem to have turned into some kind of raging 'sex fiend'. Why do I need so many climaxes these days? Do you think there is something wrong with me? Maybe I should get my hormones checked?
Having talked discreetly to one or two of my girl friends, I have formed the opinion that they do not discharge as often as I do. Honestly doctor, I am wondering whether my 'achievement' of 12 times in a night is some sort of record! And could it do my health any harm?
I imagine that you are joking when you ask if you have set some sort of record, with your 12 orgasms in a night. No, I am afraid you have not.
There is no 'official record' for these things - partly because any claims of records would be so hard to verify. If you look on the Internet, you will find that there are women who say that they have discharged over 100 - yes, one hundred - times in an evening. Frankly, I do find these claims real difficult to believe.
However, during my medical career I have seen three or four women patients who reported that they did, sometimes, orgasm around 20 times for the night. As far as I could discover, they did not do this on a regular basis. Most of the time, they restricted themselves to perhaps half a dozen orgasms per session.
Certainly, you do seem to be very highly-sexed at the moment. Why is all this happening to you, at the age of 38 or 39? Well, as you rightly say, it is now known that many women acquire the capacity to have multiple orgasms when they are in their late 30s or their 40s. Furthermore, recent research in Europe has suggested that in many ways, this is the 'sexiest' age group for females.
However, I think that something 'extra' must be going on in your life to have made you become so raunchy recently. I do not believe for a moment that it is some kind of hormone problem - though you could have your blood levels of female hormones checked by a doctor if you wish.
But my best guess is that you have been dramatically 'turned on' because you are in love with this new guy from St. Catherine. You say that you have grown 'very close' to him recently. You laugh a lot together. Also, you have clearly seen the possibilities of getting out of an unsatisfactory marriage - and maybe forming a happy, long-term relationship with this new guy.
Whatever the explanation, I think you should just enjoy the way that your body is reacting at the moment. Sexually speaking, this is clearly the best time of your life.
