Norma Miller, facilitator of Flair's Sexual Aids Seminar explains the use of the Ultra Tech 3000 to her audience in Kingston two weeks ago. - WINSTON SILL/FREELANCE PHOTOGRAPHER
IN LAST week's Flair, our Sex and Relationship story titled 'Bedroom toys' presented the views of women who had attended a seminar that explored the increasingly popular use of sex toys.
Facilitator Norma Miller, a Florida-based health care provider, dispelled the following myths:
Sex toys are not replacement for men in the lives of sexually frustrated women.
A dildo is just one of a large inventory of sex toys.
Men and women can and do use sex toys to enhance their lovemaking.
But in spite of the growing knowledge about these pleasurable little tools, many Jamaican men still wallow in ignorance and the fear that the battery-operated toys are a replacement for them.
This week, Flair asked men, all of whom requested privacy, to share their views.
QUESTION: How would you react if your wife/woman brought a sex toy into the bedroom.
JAKE, ALABAMA: I would have conditions on my wife's use of sex toys and want to know why she needs them. If it is that she's not being satisfied, is he denying me and is it to replace me? I would not be averse to their use as long as I'm participating or if I'm away for a long time, I'd feel better with her using a toy than going to someone else. It also depends on the type of toy.
DAVID, ST. MARY: I would not have a problem with it because if you fall into a routine of sameness in the bedroom, your sex life will decline. You have to be open to new ideas and new ways of doing old things
KING, SOUTH CAROLINA: I, of course, would welcome it. I think they are wonderful play things and any time my wife becomes excited about trying something that brings her pleasure, I am happy. Sex toys are your friends.
CALVIN, NEW JERSEY: If I am unable to do what the sex toy can do then its fine.
STANLEY, FLORIDA: Very happy I finally have help.
MARVIN, KINGSTON: I would want to know if she got it out of a need or out of mere curiosity. I think I am more than capable of doing anything a toy can do.
TREVOR, ST. ANDREW: It depends on the toy and on which of us it will be used. If it's for penetration we have a problem. I have always had an open mind so I would not feel threatened.
DOUGLAS, NORBOOK: The only sex aid I would require is her sister or whomever she chooses. But I have bought sex toys for women to enjoy.
MORGAN, MANCHESTER: I would be very upset, I would feel like it's to replace me. I would never go near them or want to see them round the house
ANDY, CLARENDON: I would never use them but if she wants to she can go ahead and experiment; I would not stop her. I am excellent in bed, the only thing I will use is massage oils.
PEDRO, MANDEVILLE: I will do anything in my bedroom to make my wife happy. Anything she wants to experience with me behind closed doors is fine with me.
FRED, MANDEVILLE: I have not been exposed to sex toys neither has my wife but based on what I know I don't think I would be interested.
STEVEN, MANDEVILLE: I am open to new experiences because in a marriage after a while you need new stimulants. The use of sex toys should be mutual.
(Names have been changed to protect privacy)
For more information, Norma Miller can be contacted at nmiller4@bellsouth.net.
