You see, I met my first 'lady friend' when I was 18. She was a lot older than me, and really sophisticated and experienced. She took me into her bed, and showed me how to make her discharge. I was real pleased that now I knew how to do this to women.

Well, whenever she discharged, she screamed out loudly with pleasure, and then produced a big jet of some sort of water from her 'privates'. At first, I was a little alarmed by this, but then she told me that it was what women do.

We had a real happy relationship for a couple of years, but then she 'moved on' to a younger guy. So I was on my own for quite a while, doc.

Now I have a new girlfriend, who is the same age as me. She is beautiful, really sexy, and a lot of fun to be with. She reaches orgasms real easily. I think I love her, and she says she loves me.

But there is one thing about her that puzzles me. When I make her discharge, she screams out like the older lady used to. But she does NOT gush out any fluid at the moment of her orgasm. So, I am worried that she may be abnormal or frigid in some way. Please advise.

A. The idea that your sexy girl friend is 'frigid' makes no sense at all. A passionate young woman who can 'orgasm real easily' cannot possibly be what you call 'frigid' !

Now, let us turn to this question of producing jets of fluid at the moment of climax. You have got this a little wrong through no fault of your own. In fact, you have got a rather false impression of female orgasm from your first-ever lover - the older lady.

OK, she produced some watery liquid whenever she discharged. This phenomenon is called 'female ejaculation'. The truth is that female ejaculation is pretty uncommon.

In one laboratory experiment which was conducted in the United States, experts watched 400 women have orgasms. None of those ladies produced fluid at the moment of climax.

However, since the 1970s, it has been known that a SMALL number of females DO ejaculate when they orgasm.

Dr. Beverley Whipple, an American 'sexpert' who has written a book on this subject, says that the average volume produced is about a coffee-cupful. She states that such females produce the liquid from their G spots. But these women are (I must emphasise) RARE. You will probably never meet another one in your entire life.

So your current girlfriend is absolutely normal. She obviously has good orgasms, and you are doing well in satisfying her. You seem to love each other, and I wish you both well.

A. I would not recommend a drug at all. In general, the best remedy for constipation is to eat plenty fruits and vegetables.

Only if that fails should a person consider taking laxatives. The trouble with these drugs is that it is real easy to get 'habituated' to them. And, in the long run, that can make the constipation worse.

In fact, he paid for my education, and thanks to him I recently graduated from college. He has always been very kind to me. He is divorced, by the way.

My problem is that ever since I started at college, he has been talking about giving me a child. Initially, I agreed to this, and said I would do it some time in the future. But, now I am worried about the age difference between us. I have never got pregnant before, which means that this would be 'unknown territory' for me.

What are the medical problems that could occur because of the big gap in our ages? From a medical point of view, do you think I should really consider giving him a child?

A. Well, the difference in your ages - which is 29 years - is not the problem. The main difficulty I can foresee is that this gentleman is well over 60. And at his fairly advanced years, the proportion of abnormal sperms in the man's sex fluid is starting to rise.

In other words, there is a SLIGHTLY increased chance that any child which he fathers might have a genetic abnormality. The risk is not a huge one, but it does exist.

In addition, you yourself are now well into your 30s. Soon, your own chances of producing an ovum (egg) that contains a genetic problem will start to rise a little.

Also, the risks which pregnancy pose to a 'first-time mother' will soon start to increase a small amount admittedly these risks are NOT great if you are strong and healthy. Summing up, I think that if you want to have a child by this kindly man, you should do it soon. If you leave it a lot longer, the statistical risks will start to increase.

A. Recent research suggests that about one adult in five is constantly fretting bout his or her health. Such attitudes are pretty irrational. They often stem from early childhood when a parent made far too much 'drama' about the child's minor illnesses.

At 28, it is most unlikely that you have either heart disease or cancer. I suggest you go to a doc and have a good check-up. If she gives you a clean bill of health, you should seek some counselling from a therapist who can help you to adopt a more positive attitude to life. Good luck !

A. In your email, the weight an figures which you quote indicate that you are carrying too much 'poundage'. Therefore, you need to slim down.

Also, anyone who wants to achieve a flat belly should do 30 sit-ups night and day for six months. Only if these measures fail should one consider liposuction.