The Editor, Sir:

In response to the article on people holding back sex from their partners as a punishment for something they did, I say, "Shame on you!" You may not realise it, but that's a dangerous game you are playing, and it should be abandoned immediately. Sure, you may feel it gives you a sense of power now, but in the long run, it will cause even more pain to you and your husband.

Commitments

We make commitments to our significant others to love them through thick and thin, and there is a difference between open, un-conditional love and mental, controlling love. What you are doing is actually hardening your heart against your love, which will almost always lead to separation and divorce. People don't fall out of love. Love is always. But once we build up a mental wall, it's hard to undo.

The negative thoughts we put in our minds affect the hearts and our bodies. Don't lose your natural beauty! Open your heart, forgive, love like Jesus, and you shall be blessed.

I am, etc.,

IVAN

varniab@aol.com

Melbourne, Florida

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