Relationships can be puzzling and challenging. The needs of partners vary over time and can be diverse. Couples have to realise that they are also individuals and we need other people in our lives.
The sexual aspect of the relationship is between the couple only but there are other needs. Individuals need to build a life for themselves and share with their partners. We don't encourage complete dependency on one individual because after a time that individual may start to distant themselves because they need personal space. Individuals need to work and to be involved in their community and in their church. This will give them topics to discuss with their spouses.
Couples should schedule time for them alone and cherish and nurture each other. They need to sit down and discuss their needs and wants and try to accommodate each other.
My daughter is being treated for depression but is not making much progress. Do you think that a change of medication is needed?
- Marcia
Dear Marcia:
Depression is a common condition but people vary in their response to the medication and counselling.
Medication has a lag time before a response is noticeable. Usually, we start with a low dose of the medication and gradually increase until a positive response is observed. Some patients respond to a low dose of the antidepressants while others require higher doses. Sometimes, we have to add another medication to the regime. Oftentimes, we have to change the medication to find one that is effective.
There are several groups of antidepressants and they are all effective. The current theory says that there is a chemical imbalance in the brain and medication works to correct this imbalance.
Counselling helps individuals put their lives into perspective and encourages positive thinking and behaviours. Individuals need to approach life with a positive attitude and behave positively towards others. Counselling alone is helpful in mild depression and medication and counselling are needed in moderate and severe depression.
Many individuals get caught in the web of worry about life and its meaning and purpose. Worrying about one's existence is not helpful as we don't have the answers.
Individuals who are depressed need to have a physical examination and investigations for causes of depression.
We need to have a spiritual relationship with God to help us in our moments of need. Prayer and thanksgiving are essential and we need to count our blessings and have an attitude of gratitude.
Contact Dr Yvonnie Bailey-Davidson at 978-8602 or 791-1778; or email yvonniebd@hotmail.com.
