SEX & RELATIONSHIP - Finding a mate this carnival
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Monday | March 24, 2008
Daviot Kelly, Staff Reporter
Revellers in the Bacchanal Carnival road march on Knutsford Boulvard, New Kingston. - file
For some people, this is their time of year. Carnival is very much in the air and it comes with a sense of laissez-faire. For some women, it's a chance to 'bruk' out, and for some guys, it's time to pick up girls. The soca-ites are all agog.
"Yu mad! Carnival cyaan miss me!" says Brian, a confessed socaholic." He first experienced it at the University of the West Indies and makes sure to attend the various events as often as possible. His favourite part of carnival is J'Ouvert and it's all about the free spirit. "Yu can just go up and seh to a bunch of girls, unnu nuh paint up enough yet, man' and just dance with dem likkle." But he has never had a one-night stand or weekend fling.
New friends
However, the aforementioned scenarios do assist in the 'making new friends' department. And with making new friends, you might end up making a few little ones most popularly considered carnival babies. Now, the phenomenon of 'carnival babies', i.e. those born nine or so months after carnival, is not new. However, there are enough unplanned children around already and the risk of sexually transmitted infections and diseases seems more prevalent than ever. Furthermore, it's never a good idea to start a relationship on mere physicality alone as you might find out later that you have nothing in common.
"For me, carnival is a great place to meet women, but it depends on the type of woman. Your future wife? Maybe not," says Herman. "Make the hook-up, get the digits and take it from there," he recommends.
Names changed on request.
TIPS
Some unfortunate guys have been known to lose control of themselves (and their bowels/scrotum) while dancing behind a sexy lady. It's been known to happen whether the music is dancehall or soca. To avoid this unfortunate occurrence, we provide the following tips.
It's all in the mind - Think other thoughts to temper the understandable erotic ones going through your mind. Your grandma, your ugliest aunt, the fool who bad drove you last week; anything.
Put it in reverse - If the mind games aren't working, back off a little.
Share the love - At any party there will be not-so-lovely ladies, so simply find a few of them to boogie with and that should help temper your vibes. Plus, it gives you the opportunity to dance with more women anyway.
Carry sand to the beach - It's less likely you might get soooo horny if you went with your significant other as opposed to the heightened arousal of a girl you've just met.
Lone soldier - Dance by yourself. This is the last straw because no red-blooded male wants to dance by himself.
