Anthony Meerak, Gleaner Writer

I have often heard women say that men are no good and worthless. I don't think all men are this way, just the ones who many women are attracted to. There are many good men out there, the question is, are they the type who interest you?

Here are four common mistakes women make when choosing men:

1. The mighty dollar

Old school thought: Many women are attracted to men who are wealthy. But wealth is not a crucial ingredient to a happy relationship, though it is important. If a man begins to financially take care of you, you run the risk of becoming his chattel.

New school thinking: Try looking for a man who is ambitious, he might be a clerk today, but with this characteristic he could be the boss in a matter of years. Nothing comes overnight, but if you both can work together, in time you can achieve your goals.

2. Image is everything

Old school thought: The man that is six-foot tall, armed with a handsome face and chiselled abs is mostly found in fairy tale novels. No one is perfect, not even you! Therefore, stop paying so much attention to image.

New school thinking: Don't date anyone you are not attracted to, but also don't set your standards at an unrealistic level. He might not be gorgeous, but perhaps he is willing to appreciate you and love you for who you are. That's an important ingredient when building a relationship.

3. A lasting last name

Old school thought: It has always been an intriguing thought for many women to get married to a man with a last name that is respected by society, even if the man does not respect them. Some women will compromise being abused in private just to parade with their husbands in public.

New school thinking: Don't think that every man with a respectable name is a bad person. The issue is that it should not be something that is of high priority when considering a man for a spouse. Choose a man who is willing to respect you, someone you can build a trustworthy relationship with.

4. Hair I come again

Old school thought: "If I get pregnant for a pretty hair man, then my baby's hair will be pretty." This is a great desire for a lot of women. The child may come out to be the laziest being on Earth, what is important is the quality of his hair.

New school thinking: Hair quality is heavily dependent on grooming. I have never seen a problem that Dax hair oil and a 'durag' can't fix. Try paying attention to other worthwhile genes such as wits and resilience.