Heather Little-White, Ph.D., Contributor

February may be considered the month of love, with St. Valentine's Day celebrated in a big way. Potential lovers and persons in love find several ways to demonstrate their love for their significant other. Love often speaks through a language of the body which acts as a channel to act out how a person feels about another. It may be moving expressions in speech, touching in a warm embrace, or in sexual intercourse as the deepest expression of love.

The true purpose of sex is for couples to use the body to express satisfaction with each other after deep attachments are formed. Of course, we know that sex can figure prominently in the early stages of attraction and may help to cement a relationship. However, early sex may be a disruptive force, especially when it comes with abuse and disrespect. Sex without love is common in today's society, where sex is used for commercial gains to sell from a pin to an anchor.

Routine sex

Many marriages fail and relationships break up because the love was weak. Couples remain married and live and work in apparent harmony but they do not love each other to the same degree. This ends up as a domestic arrangement rather than an enjoyable, strong love attachment to each other. Several married couples will relate that sex takes place as a demand and an obligation rather than a mutual continued desire to express the love attachment they have for each other.

When sex takes places out of an expression of a loving attachment, there is physical awareness of each other. This is the body's way, by sense and perception, of expressing love. In this regard, the physical awareness seeks communication so couples will speak to each other, share thoughts, make plans together and dream of their future.

They learn the language of love and they learn to come free, expressing a rage of moods and feelings and finding new vocabulary for their sexual expressions of love.

Nicola May Tucker pens a poem for her husband titled 'About You'. This poem aptly describes the sexual expressions of love.

Your touch is with me always,

It's burnt into my skin,

As soft and warm as sun rays

When a summer day sets in.

Your soft voice never silent,

It's forever in my ears,

Serenading every moment

And calming all my fears.

Your arms always enfold me,

The strength of angels wings,

They support and protect me wholly

With the safety a true love brings.

While I can never repay you,

For the wonder you bring to my life,

I can forever be true,

And forever be a true wife.

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