He visits me as often as he can. Sometimes he takes a day off from his work in the Corporate Area to come and see me. He treats me really good, and when I need him, he is always there.

We have been together from last Christmas, and we have never had an argument in any way you can think of. If there is any issue between us, we talk about it together and then compromise.

My mom does not really approve of the fact that he has a babymother, but she likes him - and my older sister likes him too. Until now, I have never had a boyfriend who my sister would exchange two sentences with!

I really love this guy very much. And he shows me in many ways that he loves me too, and cares for me.

My problem is that sometimes I think of finding a guy who would just be my own - and not somebody else's as well. At the moment, I am sharing my boyfriend with the other girl.

I don't want him to leave his babymother for me. Maybe I ought to 'strike out' on my own. But whenever I meet other guys, I compare them to him - and they don't have the good and caring qualities that he has.

Sometimes I want to leave him, but something is holding me back. I'm scared that if I leave him I might end up unhappy. And yet again, I know that I am getting too attached to him. What should I do, doc?

ASorry to hear about your dilemma. You will immediately see that I have changed one or two 'geographical' details of your case history - so that your friends and neighbours will not recognise you.

In my work as a doctor, I have often seen similar situations to yours. A very young woman falls in love with a charming older guy, but he is living with somebody else - or is even married.

The younger woman lets the older guy have sexual intercourse with her. He feels he is 'in clover,' because he has a real wonderful life, in which two nice females give him lots of sex!

Usually, the young lady thinks that somehow everything will work out OK in the end, and that she and the guy will continue the relationship for ever, and maybe even get married eventually.

Unfortunately, in my experience, this does not often happen. Usually, the guy stays with his babymother or wife. He finds other lovers, perhaps in distant parts of the island.

And quite often, he 'dumps' the young woman.

Now, I am not saying that this is definitely what will happen to you. But you are in a pretty uncertain relationship with this charming man. Consider this: are you sure that he doesn't have girls in other towns? Indeed, are you sure he isn't married to his babymother?

In these situations of emotional confusion, I have often found it helpful to advise the woman to simply STOP having any kind of sexual relationship for about six months. That is what I think you should do. Forget about guy Do not see this man - or any other man - for the next half year.

That kind of 'break' gives the human mind time to calm down and to reassess things. It lets the emotions cool, and lets the person concentrate on getting herself stable again.

It may well be that you will not take my advice, and that you will go on seeing this older guy, and having sex with him. If you do that, please bear two things in mind.

First, if you are not careful, he may get you pregnant. Are you on the Pill? Or do you have the injection? If you decide to continue with this relationship, I do urge you to employ some safe method of contraception!

Second, remember that a guy who is having two (or maybe more) sexual relationships might well catch an infection on his travels round the island. Statistically, there has to be a chance that your boyfriend could pick up chlamydia - or something worse.

So if you go on having sex with him, you really should ensure that it is 'safer sex' - by insisting that he uses condoms every time.

I wish you the very best of luck in sorting out this difficult situation. Please try to accept the fact that you are still very young, and that in the future you will probably meet and fall in love with other men. Some of them are bound to be more suitable partners than the present guy.

A No. This stuff is called 'smegma.' It is a normal secretion, produced by the glands under the foreskin. Many younger males generate a lot of it.

Please note that letting it stay on the skin is not too hygienic. You should take care to wash the smegma away each day.

A Pregnancies above the age of 50 are really rare, but do occasionally occur. One woman in the United States conceived naturally at the age of 57 years and four months!

But in general, a woman aged over 50 who has not had a period for two years can assume she is safe from pregnancy.

A Very possibly. Researchers say that around 20 per cent of the human race gets piles (haemorrhoids) at some time in their lives. The only way to find out is to have yourself examined by a doc. If you do have piles, special ointment or suppositories may help. But you might have to take an operation.