Angela Philipps, Contributor
Weren't these words part of the lyrics to a song in the '90s? Well, it's not far off the mark now, is it? However, does this always have to have a negative meaning? Isn't it sometimes a good thing that men have childish hearts? Yes, it can be frustrating when you're trying to have a serious conversation with your boyfriend and all he's interested in is playing a computer game. But that same quality, ladies, will allow him to romp for endless hours with children (if you have them) while you hang out with your girlfriends.
No doubt you all have your stories, girls - a myriad of complaints about how immature men can be.
They like to go off and do things with 'the boys', but all hell breaks loose if they get home to an empty apartment! They need you to be there to ask them how their day was, fix them something to eat, and ensure that they are comfortable. Sounds a bit like rearing a kid, doesn't it? Imagine this … your son comes home from school and what do you do? You ask him how his day was, you get him a plate of food, and you do everything to make him happy. (Obviously, I mean, this to apply to your daughters as well!)
make him feel loved, wanted
A man, like a child, likes to get his own way. We women pander to this as we would to a baby. Hellooooo, we're talking about a grown human being here, not one who is still crawling, bawling and depending on us to change his nappies! We have to go to the end of the Earth to make sure that he feels loved and wanted. Isn't this what our parents did for us when we were little? Of course, we should adore the men in our lives, but they ought to show us the same affection. And I am sorry to say, but grown-ups should not have to be reassured every minute of the day. There comes a point in life when we must embrace a level of autonomy, and trust that the person we are with has our best interest at heart.
men miss reckless living
I recently watched the movie Old School, starring Vince Vaughn, Will Ferrell and Luke Wilson. If you haven't seen it, I recommend that you rent it as soon as you can. It is hilariously funny, but it might touch a few tender nerves. These three aforementioned men play characters that are around 30 years old. One has been married a few years and has two kids, one gets married at the beginning of the movie, and the other has just broken up with his live-in girlfriend. The last rents a house on a university campus, and the former two decide to set up a 'frat house'. The bottom line … these men miss their days of reckless living. They throw parties with gorgeous teens, yards of ale, and pounding music. They play stupid games, think it's funny to streak naked down the street, and wake up in the living room still wearing the same clothes from the night before.
I remember those days well … but I must say that I enjoy and love my life now. I think men are different. I believe that many of them would dabble back into their past if they could. But why is this? Are they afraid to get old? Do they fear the responsibility of a serious job and raising a family? Is this why so many of us ladies in Jamaica are still single? I don't remember my grandfather's generation ever acting this way, and neither does my grandmother. So why is it that my generation of men won't act their age? Perhaps their feet need to grow first!
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