Tesi Johnson, Gleaner Writer

Bowing, eating, cunnilingus, licking - call it what you may - oral sex is still a very taboo topic among Jamaicans. The conservative sexual culture denounces the practice, though some dancehall songs suggest that it is OK for a woman to perform oral sex on a man. Just check out the lyrics of DJ Vybz Kartel's hit tune, Tick Tock, yet it is still very much frowned upon for a man to do the same for a woman.

Consider a scenario where a woman is 'liberated' and has no qualms about giving her man oral sex, but her man still refuses to please her in that way. Does she have a chance in successfully convincing him to 'go down' on her, and ignore the chiding of his peers?

HE SAYS...

Oral,26

If a woman wants oral sex from her man, her best action is to give it to him and he'll follow eventually.

After she consistently does 'it' for him, he'll start liking it and eventually get comfortable with the whole idea. Also, his conscience might start to 'ride' him and he'll want to give it back.

Still, constantly pressuring the guy doesn't mean he will give in. He will have to come around on his own time. And it wouldn't be for just any girl, only for someone he intends to spend a considerable amount of time with.

Henry,34

If a man has a total block against it, there's nothing a woman could do or say that would convince him.

But I personally will never say never. As people stay in relationships for long time and they try new things, the sex gets freakier and freakier. So if a man gets that comfortable with a woman, he probably will eventually do it. If I ever do it, it would be with my wife, and no woman outside could ever expect that from me. It's all about being comfortable.

SHE SAYS...

Jenny, 31

Don't let them fool you; most of them want to do it but are brainwashed by what people have to say.

Once you can convince him to think for himself, and not for the pack, then he'll come around. If you see that he is not TOTALLY opposed to it, then try nudging his head in that direction while engaging in foreplay, and begging for it in 'Marilyn Monroe' voice, and you just might get lucky.

Yanique, 26

I don't think I'd try to convince a man, if he prefers not to. I love giving and receiving it too. If he knows that I want it but still doesn't want to please me as much as I want to please him, then the relationship is not going to go anywhere.

I'm not sending him to any place that is dirty. It is clean, smells good and taste good, so what him scorning down there for?

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