Q Doc, I am a woman who has done wrong, and I would like your fatherly advice about my sexual problem.

I have been married for 10 years to a good and gentle man. But he is real dull in bed! I am sorry to say that, doc, but it is true. He is a little older than me, and he is not as interested in sex as I am.

He only needs to have sex around once for the week, whereas I would like it a lot more often - maybe three times for the week. He has told me where he would like to 'oblige' me, but he feels he cannot, doc. If he tries to do it more often than his body wants, he just can't get a good erection.

Doc, in spite of all this I love him. And he loves me. He is a good father to our children. And I would never leave him.

But another guy has come into my life. He is from Savanna-la-Mar, and he is real handsome and muscular. He is a little younger than me. He called at our house one day when my husband was away working, and we talked for a while. We got along real well.

Next day, he came back again - and I am afraid that we found ourselves in bed, doc. Now, the trouble is that he turned out to be a much better lover than my husband. He knows exactly what to do to turn a woman on. He makes me discharge again and again. And he has no trouble with his erection.

In the last few weeks, I have been to bed with this guy on maybe seven occasions - and each time he has been a real wonderful lover. He makes me so happy in the sack!

But the truth is that I do not love him. I know that he has another girl in Black River or somewhere. And he can be selfish and thoughtless. Also, he is always asking me for money, doc. But, he provides me with real good sex. And I do want that real badly, to tell the honest truth.

So what can I do? Could you suggest some medicine that would 'damp down' my sexual urges, so that I do not want this guy so much? Then maybe I could be faithful to my husband.

A I am real sorry to hear about this. However, I must tell you that there is no pill or medicine that will reliably 'damp down' a lady's sexual desire. So we must try to find some other remedy for your problem.

It is not for me to comment on the morals of this guy who is 'romancing' you. But as a doctor, I have to warn you that men like him who 'play the field' are very often carrying sexually-transmitted diseases (STDs) - and passing them from woman to woman. So please, take good care of your health!

Now, let us turn to your unfortunate husband. It seems to me like he has two problems.

Firstly, he does not know much about sex, or about how to please a woman. It is obvious that he is nowhere near as good as the other guy at making you discharge.

But that could be remedied. Again and again, I have seen guys who learned to be good lovers.

How did they do this? In several ways:

By reading books about sex technique.

By getting advice from the Internet.

By asking more experienced friends.

Most of all, by asking their wives what they would like them to do in bed.

Now, I think you could persuade your husband to do some of these things. If he loves you - and you say he does - then surely he ought to be willing to 'put himself out' more to ensure that you are satisfied.

However, there remains a second problem: his difficulty with erection. It is clear from what you say that he is suffering from a degree of Erectile Dysfunction (ED). In other words, there are times when he loses his nature - and this may get worse if he does not get some medical help!

So I urge you to get him to see a doctor about his erection disorder. One thing the doc should do is to test him for sugar - because ED is so often caused by undiagnosed diabetes.

I hope that the doc will also give him a good check-up, in case he has any other physical illness. But if there are none, it may be that he would turn out to be an excellent 'Viagra patient'.

In other words, Viagra - or one of the other pills which are closely related to it - could help him to have a good, strong erection whenever he wanted. Or perhaps I should say 'whenever you want'.

Q Doc, I have a problem which I think no other guy has. It is all to do with a beautiful, sexy girl from Port Antonio.

I met her six months ago, and I am crazy about her, doc. She is the most wonderful woman I have ever met. I think I love her. I would even marry her. Sex with her is marvellous.

But there is one thing that is making me fret, doc. This young lady gets real 'turned on' by having sexual intercourse in the open air, or in public places. Although she likes 'doing it' in bed, her biggest thrill is when we have sex in a car park, or the Botanic Garden, or maybe a football field.

So far, we have 'got away with it,' because no one has caught us. But doc, I am terrified on some of these occasions. Sometimes I have been so frightened that I have lost the erection.

Things are made worse by the fact that next month she is moving to Miami. She wants me to come and visit with her there, and she says she is looking forward to making out with me in all sorts of public places.

Now, is she crazy, doc - or what?

A No, she is not crazy - just a little unwise. I must tell you that there are quite a few women - and some men - who get a real big thrill out of having sex in public places. Partly, this is because there is a hint of danger - and a feeling that they might be discovered at any moment.

But there are certain real big disadvantages about 'open air sex,' and I think you should inform your girlfriend about them. They are:

You can get bitten by insects

You could get arrested - though in practice, prosecutions are rare

You could get attacked.

I must say that in Miami, Florida, the risks are even greater. The laws are real strict in the USA, and if the cops caught you, the two of you could easily find yourselves in jail. Also, there are crocodiles in parts of Florida.

So I think you should try and interest your girlfriend in types of open-air sex that are pretty safe. These include:

On real deserted beaches

In the sea - if no one is around

In private swimming pools

In private gardens

High up in the mountains (though you will not find any of those in Florida).

Otherwise, all I can say is that people who like outdoor sex do tend to 'calm down' as the years go by - and to be satisfied with 'regular' sex. Let us hope that will happen with your lady friend.

Q Whenever I eat gungo peas, doc, they 'go straight through me'. So I see them in the toilet. Does this mean I have some disease?

A No. Many people do not digest 'fibre foods' (like beans and gungo peas) very well. This does not matter. But next time you eat them, trey to chew them up real small.

Q Doc, whenever I take aspirin, it gives me a pain in the belly.

A Then take no more! From now on, you must avoid all aspirin-containing painkillers. They are many other types available.

Q My foreskin is too tight, doc. So I have to take a circumcision operation. Will this make me lose my nature?

A Certainly not. In fact, you may well find that sex is more comfortable than it was before. Good luck with the 'op'.

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