Where to meet love
published: Sunday | July 23, 2006

The experts seem to agree that the church is not a place to seek partners. According to the US-based organisation ‘Singles On the Go’, “Smaller churches and temples do not cater to singles, and though many of the larger churches have a variety of singles groups, the problem is finding someone who is at the same level of faith and worship as you are, and having other common interests outside of your shared faith.”

Sharing a certain faith does not mean that you will find someone who shares your interests, goals, or dreams.

Beverly East, author of the book Finding Mr. Write, states that churches have many genuine people, but there are some where men do not go to pray but to prey.

Among the places that she advises against using as places to meet men are clubs and the Internet.

So, where are the best places for single women to meet men? East has some suggestions:

• Meet them through friends or family members. Friends and family represent a safe zone. Using your married friends to look for potential partners for you can be a stroke of genius, as men feel less threatened with them. Says East, “As a married woman, you learn everything you can about the man and pass it on.”

•Meet them at social events – including dinner parties and weddings. Get yourself into a circle where dinner parties are held regularly. In this setting (not a club scene!) you can get to know someone through simple conversation.

•Meet them at work. So much time is spent on the job that it should not be too difficult to get to know the unattached males and females who are around. East notes that while this can backfire as you might end up working with someone with whom you have a failed relationship, statistics show that many people will meet their life partners on the job.

•Met them at colleges, conferences and conventions.

•Meet them at supermarkets. See what’s in a man’s cart, says East.

According to ‘Singles on the Go’, some good places to meet potential partners are volunteer organisations and charitable events. Many communities have volunteer events that you can can get involved in.

Are you seeking an ambitious man with leadership qualities? Some of the most dynamic people get involved in fund-raising activities.

Email Beverly East at writenow@aol.com