Model Janet shows lingerie from Natalie's Designs. Make it black this year. - CARLINGTON WILMOT PHOTO
Tomorrow the emphasis will be on showing that special someone how much you love them. However, this should be done all through the year, but if you were tardy, you can make a special effort to make the day special. For example ladies, how about letting him come home to his own private go-go dancer or Russian experience?
Sex Play Themes
EXPERIMENT WITH other themes such as Jane of the jungle, the sedate caring nurse (complete with stethoscope); take him back to school as teacher's pet; get a costume and be his favourite hot movie star or simply return to the sexy vixen you were during courtship.
So, we here at Flair want your evening and night to sizzle and we have come up with a menu that will let that special person's eyes pop and heart race with renewed love.
INGREDIENTS
Scented Candles: These are cheap and come in a variety of scents and sizes.
Fruits: These are healthy and they can be so much phallic fun. Serve chilled.
Black Lingerie: Red is way overrated and in many cases tacky at this time of year. Black can be very sensual; especially black lace (men get her that outfit you would love to see her in; if you don't know her size ask her family members or friends).
Open Mind: Approach the day's activities with an open mind let go of all inhibitions.
Roses: Men make sure you have roses (yes roses are timeless) Sprinkle petals leading to bathroom, bedroom and leave a few for the bed and bath.
Her favourite meal: (If you can cook this will not be a problem but if not, ordering take-out is fine. Remember, it's the thought that counts).
Champagne/sparkling wine: Nothing like a little alcohol to give that extra buzz especially since you won't be driving any thing except each other crazy.
Love notes/emails: You can arrange to have one delivered to him at the office, place it in the car or on gate that he has to open. Send those erotic emails you used to do before marriage, or at the start of the relationship when you couldn't wait to jump into each other's arms.
Children: These lovely representatives of your union should be banished to grandma or a friend for the evening and night. Valentine's Day was invented for lovers, not children, parents or any of the tons of folks we see getting in on the act. Get them out of the house.
METHOD
It takes planning and proper timing. Make sure that you are both free to be with each other for this night. Ladies, get home before he does - about two hours would be good.
Give Jamaica Public Service a holiday and place lit scented candles all over the house to give that intimate glow and a tantalising aroma. Do not light these until about 10 minutes before he gets home to release the aroma.
Meal should be prepared and kept warm; if it's take-out then this can be reheated in the microwave.
Have a relaxing bubble bath ready. Place more candles around the bathtub and make sure romantic CDs are being played in the background.
Have the bathroom littered with flower petals and light some incense for good measure.
In the love note you left at the door, leave additional instructions to start undressing and join you in the tub. You should be in it, bubbles up to your chin, and arm outstretched with glass of bubbly when he enters the door.
When settled in the bath, feed each other with grapes, strawberries and other fruit as you play footsie in the water. Don't speak! Let the eyes and body do the talking.
Offer to wash each other's back and other hard-to-reach places. Don't rush the process (think tantric sex), pretend you're bathing the baby with all the care in the world. Continue to sip the wine and nibble fruit, preferably from each other's lips, relax, get excited, re-discover the passion.
8. No matter how turned on you both are DO NOT, make love at this time, remember, the best sex organ in between the ears, use it.
9. Leave the tub together and give each other a fluffy towel dry before applying some special oil or lotion, (there are many erotic ones on the market). Put on the lingerie and his favourite perfume and make sure he wears the sexy silk boxers you got him for Christmas.
Men, it would be so much more romantic if you instruct her to put on the lingerie that you previously left on the bed for her.
10. After you have finished changing into your hot outfits, model for him and do a dance to the tune on the player before leading him to the table for dinner by candle-light.
11. Cater to each other's every need. Men have an ego and this needs to be stroked. And men pull out all the stops to pamper her and treat her like a queen.
12. End dinner with dessert in bed - you know - the kind you can lick off each other; the prelude to serious foreplay. Trust me, this will have him feeling like he's the man.
13. After relaxing in each others arms with these fun love games: Poker, glow in the dark par-a-dice, or lovers jackpot.
Serving suggestions: Try a lower calorie version more than once a year not only on Valentine day but just because.
Ingredients available at Passions, Shop #11, Dunrobin Plaza and D'Choix Boutique in the Village Plaza.
