Dear Pastor,
I had a man in my life. He has children with different women, but none of these ladies stayed with him. The children are scattered all over the place. He used to eat and sleep at my house almost every night. He did not provide any money to buy food. He borrowed money from me to put gas in his car and to give his children lunch money to go to school. I took care of his laundry. But I observed that I was not seeing him often.
Whenever he came by he was not staying for long. One night he was at the house and his cellular rang. I heard him telling the caller that he was on the road and he would be there at 10:30p.m. When he was finished talking I asked him who was the person. He told me some indecent words you would not believe it. He also told me that he did not love me and that he did not want to live with me. I felt hurt because this man was only using me. If I had that amount of money today. I would not have to work another day in my life.
Please give me your advice and God bless you.
Initials Withheld,
St. Andrew
Dear ...,
This brother is very ungrateful. Too bad you wasted your money on him. Let him go his way. A reptile has eaten his conscience. If he had married you, you would suffer. Keep praying and trusting God. God will take care of you. He will not get away from the judgement of God.
Pastor
Lustful lesbian
Dear Pastor,
I am nineteen years old and having a problem. I have a boyfriend but the truth is, I am really a lesbian. I am not in love with my boyfriend. I have been having feelings for women from I was about fifteen to sixteen years old. I have never told anybody about it. Sometimes I sit in my bedroom and fantasize making romantic love to a woman.
I like to look at x-rated movies and imagine myself in them. I have a girlfriend but I do not let her know how I feel about her. She is my best friend and she is very attractive. When I am in her bedroom and see her naked, I sit on her bed and look at her sexy body and imagine both of us having sex. But I never told her how I feel. All my girlfriends have boy-friends. But when it comes to sex, I don't feel to have sex with my boyfriend.
Please tell me what I should do.`H., Kingston.
Dear H,
I would like to suggest that you make an appointment to see a psychologist. From what I have gathered from your letter you have not made love to another woman, but the temptation to do so is very strong. Somebody will have to help you before you yield to the temptation. And I believe that a psychologist can help you.
Your girlfriend does not know that you are admiring her when you are in her room and she is naked. It is likely that you may lose her as a good friend if she suspects that you have such strong sexual feelings towards her. Girls should be able to meet and talk and be good friends without becoming sexually involved with each other.
I don't know if you have been praying about your problem, but you need to do more than just praying. You need professional help. So, please, take my suggestion and see a psychologist as early as possible.
Pastor
Dear Pastor,
Still support child-pastor
Dear Pastor,
I was in love with a young lady and was going to church but was not yet baptised. I also had a baby mother. I used to support my child, but the mother and I couldn't get along. She tried to punish me after she found out that I had a girlfriend. She took me to court for maintenance. In court she told a lot of lies on me and the judge told me that I have to pay big money to support my child. I was doing my very best, but she did not believe that it was enough so she took me back to court and told more lies on me.
One day I was at home and the police came in a radio car with a warrant to lock me up. They said I owed thousands of dollars. I did not have any money. My best friend told me that I should leave the district and go somewhere where nobody can find me. I did that. My girlfriend had to be telling lies to protect me. Nobody knew where I was except my girlfriend and my best friend.
My best friend used to take my girlfriend to visit me. That went on for a few months. Then I began to hear that my best friend was taking away my girlfriend from me. At first I ran away the people who told me that. I refused to believe. I asked my girlfriend about it and she denied it. I decided that I would watch it quietly. She started to change. She stopped showing love to me. One of her cousins told me that she told her that she had to keep my best friend because nothing going on for me. She denied it and my friend denied it.
I gave her all the money I earned and I encouraged her to start a little business. She started to go out openly with my best friend to the beach and clubs. When I questioned her about it, she told me people were jealous because of the business she was doing. Then she started to curse me when I questioned her about my best friend.
One day I came up to visit her and when we were in bed I tried to make love to her and she told me I should go and look donkey and horse to have sex with. I grabbed her to throw her off the bed but my heart could not allow me to do it because of the love I had for her. I pulled down the bed. I told her that she should go and stay with her man. When I returned to the country my best friend took her away and rented a place for her to live. My best friend went around and told lies on me.
I am now baptised and I am fasting and praying. I am covered under the blood. Please pray for me.
D., Clarendon
Dear D.,
The Good Lord knows all things. Everything is open before Him. I hope that you would not stop supporting your child. You may not be able to do a whole lot for her, but whether or not her mother lied on you, don't allow your child to suffer.
Pastor
You trusted your best friend and according to you, he got involved with your girlfriend. Now that you are endeavouring to serve the Lord, I am sure that you would see a good Christian sister who would love you and be true to you. To that end, I pray. So often God allows things to happen to us because He wants us to draw closer to Him. Don't worry too much, God will help you.
Pastor
