Leave this man
THE STORY -- My boyfriend beats me -- in the Youth Link column is frightening.
Please! Please! leave him immediately. Tell your parents the gory details and seek counselling. That man is sick, he needs help, psychiatric help!
Scrap your talk of marriage, children and home together. A leopard doesn't change its spot. It will be a while before your mind gets untangled. The shortest route is to beg God to take over. Delay is danger. Flowers for your funeral.
Carmen Brooks
You are in danger
I read an article in Youth Link titled "My boyfriend beats me".
She is in a predicament and don't even realise it at all because she's blinded by 'love', and more than likely will end up beaten to death by this man.
Robert H [SMTP:ripper20@hotmail.com]
Wake up young lady
Kindly print this response immediately to the young lady who says her relationship with her boyfriend is 'perfect' except he beats her repeatedly.
Wake up young lady. Your boyfriend is sick and needs professional help. Get away from him as fast as you can and don't even think of marrying this creep.
Believe me, this situation will only get worse. You probably won't take my advice anyway, but five years down the road -- if you make five years -- remember, I warned you.
Don't be afraid or ashamed, confide in your parents NOW.
Deeply concerned
He has a serious problem
I am now married for the past two and a half years. It pains my heart to know this young lady is being beaten and thinks that the relationship is PERFECT OTHERWISE. The magnitude of the error of this perception is what has promoted me to write this mail! I would like for this young lady take note of my advice. I would like for her to have a successful marriage as my wife and I enjoy and I am not and will never be a wife beater!!
Let me quickly add some facts about myself. I am an electrical engineer (UWI - St. Augustine) age 28 and my wife is a trained teacher and also holds a degree in social work.
HERE GOES - With all due respect your boyfriend has a serious problem which has nothing to do with his academic ability or social status. This problem must be dealt with BEFORE marriage. Don't be blinded by your emotions to think that it will just stop. Don't be deceived by the "very romantic" moments of restoration after these bouts of abuse. This behaviour is not a superficial problem but is deep routed. It will not simply change because he is going to be a doctor.
A concerned husband, SBB
Run for your life!
I think that girl is an idiot. She should leave that guy, because the next beating that he gives to her will just send her to her grave. She needs to speak to both her parents and his parents, and tell them that he beats her. Why should she want to marry someone who beats her?, is it that she is running down marriage and ring? If someone truly loves you they would not hit you at all.
There are guys out there who know how to treat a lady like she is special. I would suggest to her that she get some counselling. I would like to know, doesn't she read any of issues where women who are beaten by their husbands or boyfriend speak out?
Girl I think you better run for your life before it is too late.
You need help
This morning on the way to work - Ronnie Thwaites read a letter on air from your Youth section regarding a young woman was in a "perfect" relationship except for the beatings. I am really moved to write after reading it myself.
I hope that if the person who submitted the "letter" is real - that you linked her with support groups who help women. The Women's Crisis Centre IS for BATTERED women - she is being battered, covering bruises are real activities in her daily life and will affect her self-esteem at some time in the very near future. One wonders under what circumstance was she taught that it was okay a man to physically abuse a woman and that a hug makes it forgiven. Nevertheless it is real in many homes and many relationships.
G. Samuels.
