Sex before marriage - Should I? Shouldn't I?

BELIEVE IT or not, with the imminent approach of the apocalypse, many teens are worrying that they will remain celibate for this life and the next. This is source of contention, as they are torn between what they have been taught, and that little devillish belief that a dabble in fleshly pleasures can be forgiven with prayer. Merrick Andrews and Petulia Clarke spoke to two young people at opposite sides of the spectrum, one a Christian, the other a hormonal 17-year-old teenage boy. This is what they had to say.

case #1

He said

MY NAME is Dave. I'm 17 and I am not a Christian but I'm planning to return to church as soon as possible. Honestly, I don't think I could wait until I am married to have sex unless I knew that I would get married at a specific time. I am too eager to have that fleshly pleasure - because I am a virgin.

I think this is because, like all young men, I am influenced by friends, I get to see pornographic films and books early and I want to boost my ego and ratings among them. But now, instead of having sex, I read porno magazines and watch blue movies and talk about sex with friends. I recommend that teens in church concentrate on worshiping God and the Lord will provide a good husband or wife.

If I were a christian, I would prefer to have sex outside church because it is not holy to be in church praising the Lord like a hypocrite and breaking the commandments.

case #2

She said

I'M SANDRA. I worry sometimes that I won't find my husband because I've been looking around for so long and he is still nowehere in sight. I look in the church I go to now, I visit other churches, singles camp, beach trips, and all the males are either already taken or are just too undesirable. I am 26 years old and I have never had sex. I have been approached by men, but my church preaches against people being unequally yoked. But I need to experience that kind of closeness with someone.

I must admit that I've thought seriously about experiencing it once with someone, so that when God comes I won't have been a virgin forever. I've thought about asking for forgiveness afterwards because there are times that I just can't help myself. If someone asked right now, I'd marry him, just to experience it. But then the sane Sandra kicks in again, and I think that I am not missing out on a lot as with disesases and all the hormone stricken guys around, I should probably just wait and hope that God will see it fit to bless me with someone who'll be right for me.

Petula Clarke
and Merrick Andrews

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